22nd October 2015 jonbailey

The Top Ten Elements of Happiness

How we live our lives is important as it has a massive effect on our own happiness and of those around us. What are the ten key elements that we need to balance in order to achieve a happy existence? Allow us to present the top ten elements of happiness. Cheer up!

10. Fun

It may seem obvious, but a sense of and having fun is key to being happy. It’s not just about finding time to play around either. Not taking yourself too seriously and being able to laugh at life’s pitfalls is a valuable coping mechanism.  “We don’t stop playing because we get old, we get old because we stop playing.” – George Bernard Shaw

 9. Exercise

Humans are not meant to be sedentary. The health benefits of exercise are legion and the relationship between mental well being and physical activity is incredibly strong too. When we push ourselves physically we exercise not only our bodies but also our willpower and self determination. The pay off is a flood of endorphins and a stronger body. If you aren’t master of your own body, you are master of nothing.  “It is exercise alone that supports the spirits and keeps the mind in vigour” – Cicero

8. Self Worth

Having a sense of self worth isn’t about being conceited. In fact it’s just as much about knowing your limits as appreciating your strengths. Knowing where you fit into your world allows you to change your position. To arrive at your destination, you must first establish where you are starting from. From there it’s having the confidence to undertake the journey. If you don’t believe in yourself, can you truly believe in anything else? “Whether you think you can or think you can’t – you are right.” Henry Ford

 7. Security

Financial, emotional and physical security are essential for any sense of well being. Attaining security is as much about fear management as it is about risk avoidance. Sometimes despite our best efforts we are thrown a curve ball we simply didn’t see coming. Learning how to cope with such situations provides true and long term security. “Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.” – James Baldwin

6. Altruism

It is said that it is better to give than receive. In today’s cut and thrust world, is this still true? Not surprisingly it is. Acting kindly towards others helps us to see those others in a better light, boosts our own image of self worth and makes us more grateful for what we have. It makes sense to live in and perpetuate a society that is giving. Various studies have shown that volunteer workers received more benefits to themselves than the people they were actually helping. To give is good, for us and everyone else. “Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.” Martin Luther King

 5. Appreciation

To attain happiness you need to learn appreciation. You need to value what you have, what you have done to attain it and most importantly, the other people in your life. Finally you must acknowledge your own strengths and weaknesses and how best to utilise them. Take a step back and enjoy the view.  “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough”Oprah Winfrey


Being in control of your life requires you to be in control of yourself. Everybody has to suffer the “slings and arrows of misfortune”. It’s how they deal with them that makes the difference between a lifetime of stress or one of contentment. Learn how to master yourself and you can begin to call the shots. “I think the guys who are really controlling their emotions … are going to win.” – Tiger Woods

3. Relationships

No man (or woman) is an Island. Human beings are social animals and experiencing a true connection to other people is vital. Good relationships don’t just allow us to feel wanted, they should challenge our perceptions of ourselves whilst reminding us that we aren’t the centre of the universe. “Humans need to love and be loved … by others” –   Abraham Maslow

2. Purpose

Choosing and maintaining a direction in life is important as it allows you to maintain a sense of self achievement by mapping your progress against set goals. The key is to identify where you want to end up and then break down the journey into smaller, more manageable goals. Work towards each in turn and remind yourself of your destination every day. “The two most important days in life are the day you were born and the day you discover the reason why.”Mark Twain

1. Health

Good health, both physical and mental, are vital to happiness. Whilst we can never avoid all illness, we can mitigate its risk and impact by simply leading a healthy lifestyle. Taking the time to learn what maintains and prolongs your health is time well spent. Often it’s a case of moderation of those things which do us harm and promotion of those that do us good. Furthermore, the link between stress and illness should not be under estimated. As always it’s about balance. “Prevention is better than cure.”Desiderius Erasmus


Comments (2)

  1. The Perfect World Project

    What makes you happy? Do you agree with the order of our elements or perhaps we have missed something off? As always leave a comment below.

  2. Personally i believe control should be number 1, without control we can lose everything, wealth, our dreams and aspirations, health and even loved ones. With great power comes great responsibility and with that comes greater control!

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